In relationships, misinterpreting someone’s behavior can lead to misunderstandings and unnecessary emotional turmoil. Here’s a structured approach to handle such situations:
Example 1:
Behavior: Your partner doesn’t show up or text as planned.
Interpretation: “They don’t want to spend time with me anymore.”
Effect: Feeling sad and rejected.
Ask: “Why didn’t you come over? Did you still want to spend time with me?”
Response: “I was very tired and had no energy.”
Request: “What can we do differently next time? I interpreted your absence as disinterest, but I understand now that you were tired. Next time, could you let me know?”
Example 2:
Behavior: A friend cancels plans abruptly.
Interpretation: “They must not value our friendship.”
Effect: Feeling hurt and unappreciated.
Ask: “I noticed you canceled our plans. Is everything okay?”
Response: “I had a family emergency pop up unexpectedly.”
Request: “I understand emergencies happen. In the future, could you give me a heads-up? It helps me not to worry.”
Separating behavior from interpretation fosters empathy and understanding, crucial for building trust and respect through open communication and clarification. Remembering actions don’t always mirror feelings directly enriches relationships with deeper connections and smoother interactions.
- Avail Team
